The life Changes

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It is a new start! Few days ago I met one person who was trying to talk and wanted to be frank with me but I was not. The reason behind my expressions were unknown. It does not mean that I was showing my attitude or something because I am what I am. I treated him well and I was not at all arrogant but suddenly I received a massage from his side that “This is Life and every day is a new beginning.” I was amazed and asked him why did he wrote this to me? He observed something or some intuition has come onto his mind, I was curious to know.  but he did not answer.

  “This is Life and every day is a new beginning.” We read this line many times. We give advises to people but are we following it? Let us start here…….

The only thing which keep on running is our mind. Our mind has an incredible and powerful ability to change the things. This can create, modify, update & delete the moments which had happened, are happening and may be you are about to do it. When we start realizing what our mind is trying to say, or we suddenly opt the things which our mind was asking us for long, at that time a change has come into our life’s door step. We know very well that Change is a necessity but some time we were not ready and sudden change happen. It can be anything. Could be related to you daily work routine, might be nature of person toward you or can be your internal yourself which was not agreeing to change but it did ! The only reason is ” Change is a process not a event.”

Many times you feel distrust or antagonist but the happening has happened. So this is what I learnt new is Change is a phenomenon. You cant stop what is changing or what next gonna change. So be in present and live in Today.  If you are in present then you will not be worrying for future. Yes! This is life. Everything keeps on moving. Every day is a new beginning so Live it and pass positive vibes to others.

LOVE YOUR SELF

Types of Struggles

 

strg.jpgHi this is me again, with a new interest, Type of struggles. This is the another part of Girl who born to learn. 

It is true ! Struggles teach us a lot but some time, your own struggles teach you to quit… just to quit everything but I did not do that.

I started my struggle when I was a kid. I lived like a boy. My papa was willing me to live like a boy and I did. My first struggle started from here. every one used to ask me that why I am so but I liked myself as I was. I studied well. I participated in almost every curricular activities. I stood first, struggle starts here. Suddenly my sister got married and Now my mum was doing all the works alone. Now as being a girl, I was the only person who can do household works on regular basis. (As an typical Indian mentality) I had seen the days when my brother was not doing any work at home but I was doing because I am a girl. Yes! I am a girl but the things differentiate. Here struggle starts. I started comparing the things like he is a boy and he is not doing these things and I am a girl and I have to do such things. It was my internal struggle. I was not talking to others for this. Yes! I was in depression for the same. I was losing my interest in  most interested things of life as student.

I did my senior secondary with Physics, Chemistry & Mathematics. I was willing to do Engineering after that. I had given entrance test for Engineering but could not do. Again! another struggle starts here. I have joined Bachelor’s in Science. I tries to quit everything in between but struggle made me to run again. I tried to quit but I couldn’t. I get frustrated but I ran. Again! struggle starts here. After breaking my dreams with a big hammer, I reunite again and moved to NZ. I was home sick, alone and losing hope there. I was jobless, lack of money, no work. I frustrated. Again! Struggle starts here. I worked hard met some beautiful Kiwis, I learnt how to be only strong if nothing else. I worked with inspirational people. I learned new things. then studies completed, again in search of better opportunity. Again! struggle starts here.

The Struggles always are different at different situations. Some time, we are unable to express what we did and what we want to do and inner struggle starts which is most dangerous. We are unable to control our brain and heart at same time. So try to opt only one among both otherwise internal struggle will never quit. We took some serious steps in pressure or to avoid those struggles but nothing changes because your early step dig a well to fall in. Struggles are the part of bright future ! BUT if you are still struggling internally then please don’t. Express it your near ones to protect your self ,to live your dreams alive.

So in nutshell, Struggle for your will, struggle for your dreams but do not struggle internally. Always remember, “Where there is the SUN there is the SHINE.” Bright Shine.

 

Is this Humanity or Racism???

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I am working in a FMCG company. I have good experience of 5 years but I had never seen or met these sort of people. This was the day of Eid. People are celebrating. It is muslim festival. On this day people used to cook sevayi in milk which are usually awesome in taste.

There are some Muslim people working in our company. There was no holiday of Eid in our office because majority of people were hindu. My name is Razia but I belong to religion “humanity” and then to Hindu. My father gave me this name. and I love it.

Firstly the day when, a person who is muslim came from his festival next day in office, He brought milk sevayi for all. I had that full plate as I liked it most. Many of people were making faces and even advising me that why are you eating sevayi from a muslim festival because they will never be a part of our community. I was shocked and was literally laughing at that moment and replied , “are you human being or not? Creator of human (GOD) does not make any differentiation between us then who are you to create such idiotic behaviour to others. But yesterday I realised this zealot will never change without their own efforts. Such people who do racism on behalf of religion will never grow their self and are actual in need of help. In my sense, these people are handicapped with religion and will never understand what the unity is.

Before one week, I was reading a book from a writer and he has written that India will ruin itself under only one thing which is religion.

We are reading in newspapers or TV news channels that one girl has been raped in this blah blah area and found in dustbin or one girl get raped by 4 to 5 people in a bus or 5 years old girl get raped by 70-year-old man. Then where the hell is religion? Why then no body talks about their religions. Do your religion teaching you to rape a woman? Or to put acid on someone?

No! No religion teaches you this at all. You people need to wake up yourself. Waking up everyday from you bed isn’t meaning of waked up! You need to wake up your inner soul so that you may learn, sevayi from a muslim festival is not poison it is care and sharing sweet for happiness and equality what they are sharing with you.

BE A HUMAN not A RACIST

 

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Maturity- The Art of Living

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Maturity is many things.  With help of maturity you may change the way you live. The difference between Mature and Immature is : Immature will say “I want it now” but a mature person “can wait”.

Maturity is the ability to control anger and differentiate between violence or destruction. It is differentiation between ego & self- respect. You will know about possibility and assumption. Maturity will give you a clear the idea of comparison & result.

So when I became mature, the things are getting settled. I started knowing that how I can learn and earn accordingly. The main lesson which I have learnt when maturity was touching my head is, I became a person who did not get any effects from people that how they think , what they judge & what they do in their personal life. The thing which is not related to me, Simply It doesn’t bother me at all.

Yeah! I struggled, I frustrated at most of the situations of my life. I took many wrong decisions in my life but I did not fumble. I kept on doing the rest of the required things which went right as well as wrong. Now I  know when to compromise and when to not. You realize that you are mature enough when you got ability to live up to your responsibilities.  life is full of learning, you may learn at any time , any age and in any circumstances.

Level I (No Comparison) – When maturity level get started you will get to know what is good or bad for you and also for others. You will learn how an attempt to do something, gives results in different ways. Then you will never judge your self if you are learning what you want. You will never think about people’s mindset that what they think or what they are going to react on your new action. At that level you will feel better, relaxed & best thing is you will stop comparing your self to others. 🙂

Level II ( A good Choice) –  The second best thing when you had already achieved and lost at same point & you are unable to chose your way, where to go? what to do? A immature person will be taking so many advises, he will be exploring each n every possibility and will be doing nothing in the end but An Mature person will be knowing what would be pros & Cons of my action which I will be opting. Yes! it is true Actions needs brave heart. If you are mature then you will know your bravery which will make you strong internally to take any action positively.

End Level (No expectations, No regrets)– The level end is end of your hypothetical expectations, false hope, wrong decisions etc. It does not mean that if you are mature and you will be never taking decisions wrong. It sometime depend upon the situation and how fast you react to that. At the extreme level you will find yourself  calm, with a kind heart of forgiveness.

It is well said that Maturity is the art of living in peace with that you may change your prospects to live.

A Girl who born to learn

Yah! It is me. I struggled a lot and still do not get what I actually want. I was the person who wanted to become an Engineer but due to my family wishes, I could not become that. I was doing job and now jobless. Again, struggle starts here. Again I have to start maybe from zero to reunite my inner strengths and will become a working lady on my own. But, Do you think the things which any one has done on his/her own decision will ruin that person like hell…

In actual, The answer for this, in my terms is NO ! Because I am here to learn. I am here to grow. Yes! I can see the dreams to get a better lifestyle with open n wide eyes. No one can stop me.

Yes! I am failing in so many things. Yes! I am jobless presently. Yes! I am alone somewhere but I can do the best . I will be doing from now and Now, definitely without any regrets.
To be continued….

Next part will be : Type of Struggles

OPPORTUNITY……….. :)

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Once upon a time there was a farmer had a beautiful farm, he also had a very beautiful lake near the farm. One fine day he was farming in his field and a stranger passed by, the stranger asked the farmer that have you seen any diamonds recently, the farmer was surprised and asked the stranger what is a diamond?,the stranger was surprised by his question and said the farmer that if you had a diamond as big as your thumb you can buy a whole village and if you have a diamond a big as your fist you can buy the whole city, getting impressed by this the farmer asked the stranger where we can get diamonds the stranger said you can get lots of raw diamonds in Africa.
The farmer then sold all his farm with the lake and went to explore Africa for diamonds leaving his family at stray and alone. Since more then ten years he was searching for diamonds but he was not able to find anything, but as the farmer sold his farm to the other farmer, the other farmer was sitting beside the lake and saw a very shinny substance, he picked it up & it was a diamond big as his thumb, he took it & kept it as a showpiece in his house.

One fine day that stranger again came to same farm and saw a diamond in that other farmers home and asked that did that first farmer found this diamond, the second farmer said no that farmer sold this farm to me and I found this stone near the lake and the second farmer realized that the stone he found is a diamond and it was one of the most precious and expensive stones of the world.

The moral of the story is- “THERE ARE MANY OPPORTUNITIES VERY NEAR TO US BUT WE TEND TO SEE THE OPPORTUNITIES ON OUR OPPOSITE SIDE”

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My “mom” only had one eye

 

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My mom only had one eye. I hated her… She was such an embarrassment. She cooked for students and teachers to support the family.

There was this one day during elementary school where my mom came to say hello to me. I was so embarrassed.

How could she do this to me? I ignored her, threw her a hateful look and ran out. The next day at school one of my classmates said, “EEEE, your mom only has one eye!”

I wanted to bury myself. I also wanted my mom to just disappear. I confronted her that day and said, “If you’re only gonna make me a laughing stock, why don’t you just die?”

My mom did not respond… I didn’t even stop to think for a second about what I had said, because I was full of anger. I was oblivious to her feelings.

I wanted out of that house, and have nothing to do with her. So I studied real hard, got a chance to go abroad to study.

Then, I got married. I bought a house of my own. I had kids of my own. I was happy with my life, my kids and the comforts. Then one day, my Mother came to visit me. She hadn’t seen me in years and she didn’t even meet her grandchildren.

When she stood by the door, my children laughed at her, and I yelled at her for coming over uninvited. I screamed at her, “How dare you come to my house and scare my children! GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!”

And to this, my mother quietly answered, “Oh, I’m so sorry. I may have gotten the wrong address.” – and she disappeared out of sight.

One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house. So I lied to my wife that I was going on a business trip. After the reunion, I went to the old shack just out of curiosity.

My neighbors said that she died. I did not shed a single tear. They handed me a letter that she had wanted me to have.

“My dearest son,

I think of you all the time. I’m sorry that I came to your house and scared your children.

I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion. But I may not be able to even get out of bed to see you. I’m sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were growing up.

You see……..when you were very little, you got into an accident, and lost your eye. As a mother, I couldn’t stand watching you having to grow up with one eye. So I gave you mine.

I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye.

With all my love to you,

Your mother.”

 

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